Wednesday, January 27, 2016

What I learned in 2015

2015 came so kind to me. The few years prior were better but last year was roundly special!!

It was the year I turned in to a full-pledged wife when my husband came in February. I learned a lot of things. I learned that my husband eats light breakfast in the morning. Fruits and tea are essential. I learned to adjust. I learned that I have to let him be on the driver's seat and I take the passenger's. Not because he is the better driver, but he likes to serve me. On the other hand, as a passenger, I learned that I was an annoying  backseat driver and so I had to take one step back and let him do his thing, freely and humbly. 

We learned that we like doing things together. Like tea and milk, peaches and cream, adobo and rice, we were inseparable. Even in doing the house chores. He does the laundry with me. And that makes it fun. After a few damaged clothes, he finally knew which of the clothes go to the dryer and those need to be line dried.

It was also last year when we finally moved out and decided to get our own place. I learned that bringing a notepad with a checklist of things to look for an apartment while negotiating with the leasing manager can make you look like a pro. When in fact I have never searched for an apartment in my life. It may seem overwhelming but actually moving can be feasibly done if you do your research on point. I learned that interior decorating is not so expensive if you know where and what to look for.

It was last year too when together, we joined a couples discipleship group. We learned about how so much of a cradle Catholic we were and there's still so much to learn about our faith. What's refreshing to know was that while we were learning about our faith, our relationship grew deeper and stronger and we made wonderful friends. We learned a lot from each others experiences and so much so from our household leaders.
I learned that God does and always will take care of my job. He builds my ladder even if I don't realize it. All God expects me to be is that whatever I do, work at it with all my heart as working for Him (Colossians 3:23) and He will take care of me. I learned to give priority to what utterly matters and figured out what was dispensable and what's not.

I learned that my writing skills got better, however, I didn't write as much. I felt sorry but not so sorry. Family, work, community, got in the way. A good kind of way. I learned that influencing people could be done more with actions and not so much with rhetorical words. To be truly intentional with touching other people's lives is to first making yourself better. I know I still have a long way to go. Through God's grace, he taught me how to control my emotions, my anger, my frustrations. That your one and only enemy is the evil one. The more you try to be good, the more the devil tempts you to do bad. And that's just how the world works.

I learned that the pressure is getting real in the baby department. Now that Alan and I are together, people seem to be in a hurry for us to get pregnant. Whenever I check my Facebook, babies and new moms dominate my news feed. I learned that I should rejoice and be happy for them and to not think something is wrong with me. I learned that God is still preparing me and Alan for parenthood.

My favorite learning of all is that the happiest moments of my life is not the accumulation of things but the moments I get to spend with Alan and the memories we made. Life is simple and less complicated that way.
2015, I learned a ton from you and you really took my breath away.  I'm now getting the hang of being a wife, and prayerfully a new role would be nice, 2016.